How to Use a Strap-On for the First Time: Complete Setup

Pre-Session Setup

1. Fit the harness: Practice alone first. Know how it fits, how it feels.

2. Choose the dildo: 3.5–4.5" insertable, 1–1.25" diameter, curved, silicone.

3. Test O-ring fit: Ensure dildo base fits securely in harness O-ring.

4. Prepare lube: Water-based, abundant.

Communication

• Establish safe word
• Regular check-ins ("OK?" "Feeling good?")
• Permission to stop anytime

Position (for beginners)

Doggy-style (receiver on all fours): Easiest to control, easiest to slow down.

Technique

1. Lube generously
2. Go slowly (much slower than instinct suggests)
3. Start shallow
4. Increase depth and speed gradually only if comfortable
5. Check in constantly

Common Mistakes

• Wrong size dildo
• Not enough lube
• Too fast/deep initially
• Insufficient communication
• No safe word

Verdict

Start small, slow, communicative. First experience is about exploration, not intensity.

See also: strapless strap-on guide, anatomy, prep and technique for pegging, and how to choose, fit and use a harness.